Asexuality – What You Should Have Learned From Sex Education
Asexuality– what is it and is it real? Why do we need to know about asexuality? Why does it matter? What does asexuality teach us? In fact, asexuality is what we all should have learned from sex education back in school. Asexuality is associated with attractions – both sexual and romantic. But do attractions matter in our life? Some people may think they are not important at all, but if we look at it closely, both sexual and romantic attractions have always played a big role in our lives.
Back in school, most of us were taught that sexual attraction and romantic attraction have to always go together in the same direction. But in reality, do they? In fact, there are people without sexual attraction – or asexual, and people without romantic attraction – or aromantic. But why does this matter? Why should we know this? To understand asexuality, you must first understand the different attractions.
Sexual attraction – to explain in an easy way – is the response to other people sexually and it often ends up in sexual desire or contact with those people. Sexual attraction is based on many qualities, whether it is one’s appearance, movement, smell or even clothing. It can be towards any gender or race. Some people may find that they have sexual attraction towards more than one genders.
Romantic attraction – could be explained the opposite way of sexual attraction. Instead of a response to other people sexually, it is romantically, and often results in desire of romantic relationships. A lot of asexual people may feel romantic attraction towards other people even though they do not feel any sexual attraction.
What is important about this is that when we were taught that sexual attraction and romantic attraction have to go all the same way, it causes problem for those people who might be struggling to find their identities. For example, a person may find people of one gender sexually attractive, but they may not find them romantically attractive. Therefore, the person would be struggling to know what they actually are because attractions can be one confusing topic.
Being asexual does not mean you cannot have sex or sex drive. In fact, there are asexual people who are happy with having sexual intercourse with their partners.They only do not feel any sexual attraction, but that does not mean sex feels altogether gross to them. On the other hand, there are also asexual people who will not have sex at all no matter what. For these people, the idea of having sex grosses them out. They definitely do not feel like having sex with their partners. And there are these sex-neutral asexual who do not feel very fond of sex, but they do not hate it either. They may have sex with their partners for whatever reasons – it could be to provide their partners’ happiness, just to try things out, or that they feel like doing it.
For many asexual people, the sex topic may not be their favorite topic. While other people may talk about sex in one way – the couple’s position and how it should feel, if they should try new positions, what kind of pleasure they would get from doing this or that, us asexual people may be wondering why you are having sex on a sofa instead of a bed, or why you choose a pink towel instead of purple, or what would your pets be thinking about you when you have sex. You see, all different perspective and thoughts.
Knowing about asexuality, sexual attraction and romantic attraction can help us understand ourselves better. It could help people who are wanting to try new things with people, but are too scared. For example, a person who are bisexual curious, they may want to try to have sex with the same or opposite gender. An dif they know all about these attractions, they would not be damning themselves if they end up having no sexual attraction towards one or another – or romantic attractions. And I personally believe that teaching kids about asexuality in school could be really useful. Many asexual realize they are asexual in school because in school, you have friends who might be having sex and stuff. It iseasy to compare yourselves to your friends. If one kid turns out to be asexual and there is asexual topic in sex education, the kid will not be totally shocked about who they are or they will not think there is something wrong with them like many of us asexual do when we were younger.